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My Favorite Spanish YouTube Channels

2026-10-24 / / 0 Comments

When my husband began speaking seriously about relocating abroad, with Spain as the probable choice, I started following YouTube creators who shared their journeys and daily experiences there. Those accounts helped convince me that life could work out, so I gradually expanded my subscriptions to include more Spain-focused channels. To express gratitude for the quiet reassurance they provided, I have decided to recognize them here in my blog.

First and foremost is Spain Revealed, run by James Blick. This channel focuses primarily on moving to Spain, has interesting interviews with people who have made the jump, and sometimes delves into the cultures that make Spain an interesting place to live. He is a foodie, and a number of his videos feature making stops at local restaurants and highlighting regional specialties. He offers a “Masterclass” on moving to Spain twice a year, covering many topics from visas to finding pet care over the span of 8 to 10 weeks, a mixture of pre-recorded videos and live video group calls on deep-dive topics. If you’re seriously considering making a similar journey, I’d strongly recommend signing up for James’s class.

Life in Valencia

Next I’d like to highlight several channels from folks living in our target landing spot, namely València.

  • The Long Way Home – This is probably my favorite Valencian channel. Matt and his family moved to Spain without a lot of preparation and have faced quite a few challenges. Despite that, they are making a very successful life in Spain, and they share the challenges, the successes, and some great travelogues along the way. He also posts interviews with other immigrants about their unique experiences. New content every Thursday.
  • Andrew Moves Abroad – I’ve found this channel relatively recently. Andrew, his wife, and three small kids moved from the US to Valencia about a year ago (as of this writing), and share their experiences in the city. The channel focuses on family life, how their kids are integrating into Spanish culture, and the differences between US and Spanish culture. He frequently posts “shorts” with longer videos coming out about once a week.
  • In Spain We Trust – another new channel to me, Mitch describes his life in Valencia, the challenges he and his husband faced in moving pets across the Atlantic, and the pain of being denied a visa to visit family in the US. Mitch keeps it real, the ups and the downs.
  • Abroad in Valencia – The host of the channel, American Kevin has lived in Valencia with his Valencian husband since 2018, and his channel covers day trips he takes outside of the city, cultural events like Les Fallas, how much it costs for him to live where he does, and other personal observations.
  • Everything is Boffo – A Filipino couple who jumped from Southern California to Valencia without having seen the city. Thanks to Spain’s policy of streamlining citizenship for former colonies of Spain, they are both now Spanish citizens. They document their life in Spain, their encounters with Spanish bureaucracy, and how to move to the country under the various visa options. They also produce a lot of entertaining YouTube shorts.
  • Hola Spain! – This couple moved from Texas to Valencia, and their videos share their experiences in Spain, commentary on what’s going on in the US, and their discoveries of Spanish culture.
  • Our Chosen Spanish Life – Technically not from València but from a nearby town. Two older gentlemen around the age of my husband and myself, navigating life in Spain as a mixed-race couple. Unfortunately, they haven’t updated their channel in a while. I hope they haven’t decided to abandon it.

Life In Spain Outside of Valencia

And now for several that are not in València yet are still a joy to watch:

  • Closer to Happy – I always immediately watch new videos posted by this channel which consists of Cliff and Cheryl Pia, a couple that gave up a lucrative fast-paced life in the States to live in a much calmer Marbella on the Costa del Sol. They share experiences in Spain, including some of the more interesting festivals, interactions with their family, comparisons between the US and Spain, and goofy loving-couple stuff.
  • Days We Spend – The first “life in Spain” channel I followed and still a must-watch for me. Shawn and Lainey are a fun couple who are living in Ourense in the autonomous community of Galicia, northwestern Spain. They are avid hikers, and all-around outdoors enthusiasts. They usually post new content every week, but are on a bit of a pause as they welcome a new addition to their family. Best of luck guys!
  • Hamiltons in Spain – Bruce and his family moved from the S.F. Bay Area to Logroño, Spain with no jobs and two kids. The channel documents family life in Spain, travels with very young children, and compares their life in the States and their life in Spain. Bruce has a very laid-back delivery style which can itself be very soothing.
  • Ian C Francis – A visual storyteller who moved to Malaga from the States by way of Italy, he documents things like the cost of living, the cultural differences he’s noticed, and a newly awakened artistic hobby.
  • We Dreamed of Spain – A channel hosted by Mel Moss, a British expat based in Malaga, featuring cultural and historical sites of interest, and travel to various regions around Spain.
  • Get Me To Spain – Neil & Sue, UK retirees in Costa Blanca, create videos about immigrating to Spain on a Non-Lucrative visa, Spanish festivals and traditions, comparisons between the UK and their life in Spain, and interesting topics. If you want to see the Costa Blanca through the eyes of Retired Brits, this channel is for you.

Relocation Advice and Services

  • Bureaucracy Spain – They claim to be Spain’s leading immigration platform, and the group we are using to help us apply for our Visa. Their videos cover all sorts of immigration-related topics. More immigration news and services are available at their website.
  • Spain Guru – Bruno started this channel to help people immigrate to Spain. He has videos covering all of the steps of applying for visas, getting your identification card, and getting Spanish citizenship for those who desire it. The channel is very focused on making immigration to Spain as transparent and painless as possible. They offer several paid immigration services and referrals through their website.
  • Mari in Spain – This is another channel which exists to promote their paid relocation assistance services, but I still find the videos interesting and informative. She addresses topics like affordability, which city to find your new home in, and changes to Spanish immigration law. Her website can be found here.
  • Traveling with Kristin – While Kristin helps clients move all over Europe, her YouTube channel often has videos pertaining to life in Spain. She immigrated from the US, and does make some videos making comparisons between the US and Europe. You can check out the services she offers on her website.
  • Hi Homes – This channel focuses on information about real estate in various regions of Spain, primarily the Costa del Sol.

News and Current Events

  • Spain Speaks – Stuart is a British expat who has been living in Spain (I believe Madrid) for a few years now. He shares interesting insights about the cities of Spain and the cuisine found therein. He also has frequent “Update” live broadcasts where he covers some of the Spanish headlines, gives his perspectives, and responds to viewer comments. It’s useful to get a personal perspective on what’s going on in the country.
  • Euronews in español – The official Spanish language YouTube channel for the news outlet Euronews.
  • El País – The YouTube channel for Spain’s national newspaper. They report on stories from Spain, the US, and other places. Videos are between 1 and 6 minutes long, and are entirely in Spanish.

Travelogues

  • Come to Spain – Mostly a travel vlog, visiting and highlighting some of the most beautiful, historical, and interesting cities in Spain.
  • PakSpan – a lively and entertaining couple who visit interesting and culturally significant cities around Spain and highlight the beauty to be found in each. They focus mostly on the Costa del Sol, but sometimes they venture further out. I’ve been adding several of the cities they’ve visited to my list of places to check out once we’ve landed in Spain.

Other Interesting Spain-Related Channels

  • Spain on a Fork – A cooking channel, focusing on traditional dishes from all over Spain. The few I’ve tried have been outstanding.
  • ARTING ABOUT with Nathan – Not really a channel about Spain, but Nathan does live in Barcelona and travels to other Spanish cities for urban sketching. I find him entertaining and creative, a fun channel to watch when you need something distracting. And the channel name gives me the giggles. 🙂

Securing My Digital Sovereignty

2026-07-02 /
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Ever since reading about how the Trump administration ordered Microsoft to block Outlook access to certain members of the ICC, I’ve been thinking about how few protections the US has around citizen privacy and their access to our data. And I’m looking at the EU’s efforts to enact digital sovereignty, and I’m thinking it’s time for me to make similar moves.

On February 6, 2025, Microsoft allegedly blocked the Outlook email account (and associated services) for ICC prosecutor Karim Khan, reportedly due to sanctions Trump imposed after the ICC issued arrest warrants for Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and former Defense Minister Yoav Gallant over alleged war crimes in Gaza. Microsoft president Brad Smith disputed the “blocked” framing, telling reporters the company never stopped or suspended services to the ICC — he described it instead as a “disconnection” of Khan’s individual account, with Microsoft staying in contact with the ICC to keep other services running. Whatever you call it, Khan was locked out and had to switch to Proton Mail. Trump was upset because the ICC was investigating people he wanted protected. The CLOUD Act gives the US government the right to compel handing over the personal data of anyone it desires, even if the data is stored outside the US. The Trump administration will tell you not to worry, to trust them that they’re only going after the bad guys. Do you believe that? Given how they’ve been treating people exercising their constitutionally protected rights to free speech, and how they’re trying to declare people who support trans rights as terrorists, I don’t trust them one bit.

The EU has a comprehensive data protection framework primarily through the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR), which emphasizes strict consent, transparency, and accountability, imposing heavy fines for violations. The GDPR mandates that anyone storing data on an EU resident must come with a minimal amount of guarantees. The EU issues certifications for those who do. It should not be a surprise to learn that the US does not meet the EU’s requirements. For some time, there was an agreement between the EU and the US called “Safe Harbor,” but when it was shown that intelligence agencies routinely ignored the provisions when spying on EU residents communicating with US residents, that agreement was challenged in court and was overturned. They tried again with something called Privacy Shield, but that too was struck down in the courts. There is another agreement, the EU US Data Privacy Framework, but the recent Supreme Court ruling in Trump v. Slaughter likely means that the FTC, the current guarantor for privacy in the framework, is no longer independent, violating one of the terms of the framework. Maximilian Schrems, the man who successfully sued to strike down the previous two agreements, has indicated he plans to sue over the current one.

The EU has started urging member nations to look into digital sovereignty, to move away from software products and services that are offered by companies headquartered in the US as a way to protect its residents from the vagaries of administrations like the Trump one. Honestly, this sounds like a very good idea, and as my husband and I are working on our move to Spain, it has me contemplating how we could make a similar move.

I’m currently not looking to move away from the Apple ecosystem. At the moment, we are too tied to the ecosystem, and there aren’t many alternatives, none of which interoperate as smoothly as the Apple ones do. But I recognize that as a US company, Apple is subject to the CLOUD Act just like Microsoft is. I am much more comfortable with Apple’s privacy policies and practices than I am with Microsoft or Google (and I can vouch for how privacy is a core value that is discussed with the design of each service and product, having worked there for sixteen years). I think we’ll eventually look at other options, but we’re not ready to make that step yet.

The first step is disassociating ourselves from companies like Microsoft and Google. Microsoft is easy. Neither of us uses Outlook or Teams, and there are plenty of Office replacements in the open-source environment. While Apple’s office products are pretty good, and do a reasonable job at being able to handle Office’s file formats, they’re not awesome. I’m personally looking at OnlyOffice, the Office replacement that forms the basis of EuroOffice, but I’ll probably finalize on LibreOffice, since I much prefer that UI (I hate the “Ribbon” interface that has taken over the various Microsoft Office products). So ditching Microsoft should be simple. Ditching Google is more difficult. So many people depend on Google services like Meet, Drive, and Classroom, and if I’m interacting with them, I need a Google account. Ditching my Google account would also mean losing a lot of the customization features of YouTube. And I haven’t found a good replacement for the Google Flights website. The fact that Google is subject to the CLOUD Act is bad enough, but Google’s focus on packaging and selling user data to advertisers is just beyond the pale. I definitely want to divorce myself from them; I’m just not entirely sure how.

Beyond that, I’m looking at things like moving my web hosting to a company based in the EU and subject to the GDPR. My current hosting provider is Nearly Free Speech .Net, which has been a great service. But they’re based in the US. I’m currently looking at Hetzner. Obviously we’ll be getting phone and cable service from a local Spanish provider, but we’ll maintain a bare minimum plan in the US, probably with Tello, so we can still get 2FA texts. I’m not sure what else I’ll need to do to minimize my use of US-based digital services.

I personally feel that everyone in the US should be looking at the powers retained by the US government and how they intersect with your digital privacy rights. If what the US is allowed to do concerns you, I urge you to take action to protect yourselves as much as you can, especially if you are anything other than a straight, white, heterosexual, cisgender, Christian male. There are plenty of signs that the Trump administration is coming after us. We should all give them the smallest target possible.

On Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

2026-01-04 /

A dear friend recently posted something on Facebook that appeared to condemn Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), calling it “gaslighting bullshit.” I took great umbrage at that assertion and, in fact, found it infuriating.

I’ll concede that I may have misinterpreted my friend’s intent. They mentioned hating apps that claim to use CBT. I haven’t used those apps, and perhaps what the apps present as CBT is merely hollow, meaningless affirmations. If that’s the case, I would likely agree about the uselessness—and possibly even harm—these apps pose. (This possibility is why I’m posting this in my own space rather than theirs.)

However, that’s not how I read my friend’s criticism. I interpreted it as an attack on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in general, and such an indictment runs completely contrary to my personal experience as a beneficiary of the technique. To be blunt: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy saved my life.

Before explaining why, I need to offer two caveats. First, I can only speak to my personal experience with the technique; others may have encountered CBT in different forms and come away with different impressions. Second, I’ll be discussing my struggle with depression, including references to suicidal ideation. If this content may cause you harm, please read no further.

I’ve always struggled with depression, though it took years to recognize it as such. As a teenager, I experienced days-long “sulks,” as my parents called them, periods when, if I got out of bed at all, I would spend every available moment lying there, dark thoughts swirling through my head. Yes, I frequently contemplated self-harm, seeking to “end it all” and relieve my suffering or, as I would have said then, “relieve the world of my unbearable presence.” Only the fact that most methods seemed overly painful prevented me from following through.

As I grew older, I learned to mask my depression better, or at least I thought I did. The hard crashes continued occasionally, and the only thing that seemed to help was listening to Indigo Girls. Something about their songs spoke to my inner core of internalized homophobia and loneliness. My friends noticed my struggles, though they misattributed the causes. Coming out helped relieve some symptoms, but the depression persisted, and I still crashed periodically.

Eventually, intense employment stress triggered the worst of my depression, causing me to snap at coworkers and surround myself with a nearly palpable gloom that drove others away. This cost me my job. I was fired from a company I had helped found. Subsequent positions met similar fates as my depression fed on my employment troubles, creating a vicious cycle of worsening mental illness.

I write all this so that you have an understanding how much I was affected by depression.

Finally, I was convinced to seek help. I started taking antidepressants and meeting with a therapist, who suggested we try Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. He described it as identifying distorted thinking—moments when my internal monologue was full of inaccuracies—and finding evidence to prove those thoughts wrong.

(My subsequent reading supported this characterization. “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy” by David D. Burns is a foundational work in popularizing CBT. The book explores the many ways depression distorts our thinking and offers strategies to counter these distortions. Some characterize CBT as “feel-good toxic positivity,” but I believe they’re entirely wrong.)

Here are some things my depression told me in my darkest moments:

* “You fail at everything.”
* “You’re a stupid loser.”
* “No one wants to spend time with you. No one cares about you.”
* “You’ll never be loved.”

Two revelations of CBT were particularly helpful for me. First, my mind was lying to me, and it was easy to prove these statements inaccurate. Second, my mind dealt in absolutes—and as Obi-Wan Kenobi says, “only the Sith deal in absolutes.”

My therapist helped me recognize these thoughts and thought patterns, identify them, and compile a list of common ones. Then we examined each and found instances in my life—events that happened or things people said—that proved the thoughts inaccurate or, more bluntly, were lies. We completed worksheets documenting times I had succeeded and conducted honest assessments of my skills, talents, and abilities. We reviewed invitations I’d received to parties and events, and noted how people at the weekly board game night I co-hosted enjoyed my jokes and valued my observations.

All these data points proved my all-or-nothing thinking was simply wrong. Given how my mind works, having concrete evidence that a statement is false severely weakens its hold on me. Once the lies are exposed, they lose their power.

As people often say about mental illness: depression lies. CBT helped me expose those lies and counter them with fact-based proof. Is CBT a cure? LOL, No. I still experience depression and bleak periods. But I no longer tolerate the absolute, all-or-nothing, distorted thinking that once pulled me deeper into darkness. I can now recognize depression for what it is, identify distorted thinking, and stop it in its tracks. I wouldn’t have these tools without my therapist suggesting Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

Will CBT work for everyone? I doubt it. I defer to trained therapists and psychologists who have the experience to recognize when CBT would benefit their patients.

But it worked for me, and I won’t tolerate anyone gaslighting me by calling it bullshit.

The Come From Away Experience

2024-11-24 /

This Thursday, I experienced Come From Away again. I’ve experienced it twice in theatres, a couple of times on Apple TV+, and countless times streaming the music. And I very explicitly and deliberately use the word “experience” instead of “watching” and/or “listening.” Of all of the theatre I’ve seen, Come From Away is the one that full pulls me in and makes me feel ALL of the feelings. Knowing that every actor on stage is portraying actual people who lived through the event, and are often speaking in the actual words of the affected people, turns my empathy up to 11 or more.

I understand and deeply feel the terror, the fear, the agony, the relief, the fascination of exploring new identities, and how the experience ultimately changed them. I want to believe I would act like the people of Gander with incredible grace on such short notice. I want to believe I’d be open to new experiences like lumberjack Kevin, I’d like to believe in new love found in horrible situations, I wish I would be clever enough to figure out how to communicate with fearful people and tell them they have no need to be anxious.

I feel my guts wrench when the pilot, Beverly, realizes that the thing that has brought her the most joy in her entire life was just used to kill hundreds and thousands of people. And Hannah, desperate to get news about her son, and then the heart-wrenching resolution. I am literally on the edge of tears throughout most of the 90 minutes, and there are several times I’m entirely overwhelmed. Even listening to the cast recording will bring the tears (as it’s doing at this moment as I’m typing this).

They often say theatre can take you away, allow you to live other people’s experiences. For me, Come From Away is the epitome of that maxim.

An Ill-Informed Election

2024-11-23 /

I’m seeing commentary, both in mainstream media and on social media, that expresses incredulity that people knew what Project 2025 and Agenda 47 were all about and yet a plurality of voters chose it anyways. The problem is, I’m not convinced the majority did know about this. In this election, the majority of voters did not get their news from reliable sources. They either got all their news from right-wing sources (Fox, NewsMax, ONN, etc.) or from algorithm-based social media (Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, Threads, etc.) where the algorithm was feeding them an endless supply of highly biased information. Now that the election is over, and proponents of Project 2025 are exultant and not trying to obfuscate it anymore, a lot of Trump voters are hearing about it for the first time and are shocked. Sadly, truth-based news reporting failed to penetrate the right-wing “news” bubble.

I expect many of those voters will be outraged when parts of that agenda take effect. And I’m partly empathic, but equally partly scornful. Like, I’m sorry they’ll feel the consequences of tariffs, destruction of healthcare, immigrant detention camps, higher prices on everything, denaturalization, and dozens of other consequences of their vote along with the rest of us who tried to warn them, but I’m also angry about how easily they were duped, how they eagerly consumed a steady diet of lies and obfuscation from the right-wing propaganda machine, and showed disinterest in (or lack of capacity to) engage critical thinking skills.

Sadly I really don’t know how to address this disparity in veracity of sources of information. How do we get people who are dependent on a steady diet of fear and manufactured outrage to step outside of that ecosystem and let some facts into their worldview? Telling them “I told you so” will only increase resistance to deradicalization.

It’s infuriating how mainstream media, including those generally considered on the liberal end of the political spectrum, are currently attacking Bluesky for giving progressive people safe harbor, accusing us of building an echo chamber, while completely ignoring the right-wing echo chamber that radicalized and stupefied a little under 50% of this year’s voters.

Where Have I Been?

2024-07-16 /

The past few months have been a whirlwind, keeping me away from my writing desk more often than I’d like. Family health crises, travel commitments, and a relentless heatwave conspired against my creative pursuits. However, the cooler weather and inspiring panels at BayCon have reignited my passion for the craft.

While my main projects took a backseat, I wasn’t entirely idle. I’ve penned nearly 20,000 words on a cozy mystery—a delightful side project that’s been a welcome distraction. But now, it’s time to refocus on honing my short story skills.

The writing journey is rarely smooth, and as anticipated, my latest round of submissions met with rejections. Currently, my submission queue stands empty, save for one urban fantasy piece. This noir-tinged tale of a detective uncovering the truth about vampires straddles the line between fantasy and horror, leaving me uncertain about its ideal market. Moreover, it’s not quite the genre I want to lead with, and it still needs to undergo the rigorous workshop and critique process.

Famous Science Fiction, 1967
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So, I find myself back at the drawing board, flexing those neglected brainstorming muscles. I’ll admit, my sci-fi idea generation muscles have grown a bit atrophied, but I’m determined to build them back up. Armed with my trusty notebook and a new Pilot “Vanishing Point” fountain pen (a birthday gift to myself which glides across the page like a dream), I’m ready to tackle this creative challenge head-on.

As I embark on this renewed journey, I’m curious: do you have any go-to sources for writing prompts, especially those tailored for science fiction? I’d love to hear your suggestions in the comments below. Let’s spark some interstellar inspiration together!

Long Time No Update

2024-05-13 /
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Well, yeah, time flies? Sorry, I haven’t updated in quite some time. I fell out of the habit, and life occasionally got interesting.

I did finish NaNoWriMo 2023, with over 50K words written in a fantasy novel. After I hit the 50K, I set it aside. It needs a lot of work to get it to a place where I’d be interested in completing it. It was supposed to be a swashbuckling adventure which takes place in a setting that combined ancient magic, newly emergent steam-powered technology, inscrutable gods, and a ton of Dumas-inspired musketeer action. I might have hit some of the notes of that last bit, but other than that, the city never really came alive in my writing. It just felt like a bog-generic fantasy city. BORING! So, into the incubator it goes and maybe in a couple of years it’ll come back out with new life and energy.

In the mean time I’ve started and stopped a number of projects, from Space Opera to low-stakes fantasy, to MM romance. Currently on the needles, as my knitter husband would say, is a cozy murder mystery with a gay male sleuth. I’m enjoying writing it, taking a lot of inspiration from “How to Write a Cozy Mystery: Step by Step: A Proven System to Create Reader-Favorite Cozies” by Natasha C. Sass. Of course, I targeted a cool 60K novel, but just four chapters in, I’m having to reset my target to 75K. I am not a brief writer.

Anyway, I’ll try to get back in to the habit of updating this blog.

If you stumble across this and read this update, thank you!

New Submission

2023-07-24 /

I’ve submitted the story F&SF kindly rejected to another magazine, this one with a much shorter response time, specifically Clarksworld. Again, my expectations are very low, just hoping to eventually snag a personalized response.

On LLM “Artificial Intelligence”

2023-05-29 /

As I toddle off to bed, I’m pondering why we are calling LLM tools “artificial intelligence”. They don’t really show any kind of intelligence, artificial or otherwise. All they do is put millions of texts into a blender, hit the “frappe” button, then pour the slurry back out and feed it to you. There’s no verification of presented data, no discernment between fact and fiction, just stochastically stringing words together in a way that resembles other text it has seen. The appearance of coherence is merely a factor of how much data it has consumed. The coherence is an illusion. And yet we have people out there that are convinced systems like ChatGPT are some kind of oracle, infallible and wise. That’s truly frightening.

Thoughts on a Polite Society

2023-04-20 /

An armed society is a polite one!

Ralph Yarl shot in the head after mistakenly ringing the doorbell at the wrong house.

An armed society is a polite one!

Kaylin Gillis killed after pulling into the wrong driveway by mistake.

An armed society is a polite one!

Two Texas cheerleaders shot after one mistakenly got into the wrong car.

As the number of guns in our society skyrocket, I just have to ask: When the FUCK do we get to the POLITE part of the aphorism frequently quoted by gun lovers? When did making simple mistakes, mistakes all of us make at one or more points in our lives, become a crime punishable by being shot at or even killed?

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